Two weeks ago I made the decision to euthanise my old dog, Glenna. Today I made the same decision in respect of my father in law, Alan, who has advanced dementia, pneumonia and is incapable of swallowing. Of course, it's euthanasia by non-intervention so we have to wait a while before we can say our final farewell to him..

Glenna's ending was calm, quick, painless and civilised. Alan's ending will be frightening, painful, drawn out and messy. It is said that the English love their dogs more than they love other people. Certainly the different way we treat dogs and people at their time of dying would indicate that this is true.



  1. Receive him oh Lord who now comes to you. Grant that he pass from life through death to life eternal without fear or pain. Send your Comforter to his family and friends so that they may mourn their loss while celebrating his life among them.


    MP, I have literally been there done that and it is so hard. But it seems clear it is time. We do our best for our loved ones when we accept their death and prepare our goodbyes. But it is just so hard. Hugs to you, Jane and all.


  2. It is a hard decision. I had to make a similar decision for my mother – who was not suffering from dementia and was still aware of her surroundings. She was 91, had COPD, and could only breathe if they had a mask tightly strapped to her face with 100% oxygen. I had to make the difficult decision to remove the mask and let her go. It was the hardest thing I ever did but the kindest at the same time. She could not live like that. Thankfully, it was fast, and the nurse gave her a shot of morphine to ease any discomfort. I hope your father-in-law goes peacefully as my mom did.