If Gene Robinson's divorce is just a personal matter and, to put it Susan Russell's aggressively defensive words, "not about me," then his marriage was just personal and not about anyone else. But Gene made it absolutely clear that his marriage was a communal thing, a statement to the rest of society. He chose to be iconic and representative. So I'm not in the slightest bit embarrassed by the fact that I find the latest chapter of his life in the public eye disappointing.
You make your own bed and you lie in it, whether that's with company or on your own.