I operate under the persuasion that I should use, and not use, terms as prescribed by those to whom they would apply, or should not be applied. That’s just good manners. I suspect that on both sides of the pond, transexual and transvestite are not the same thing. I have not known a transvestite, but have friends who are transexual. I suspect that the aversion to the term “tranny” is due to the fact that it makes light of what has been a very difficult internal and external experience. Most of us get to a point in life where we don’t give a rat’s ass what people call us, or think of us, and such names become irrelevant, but I don’t get to decide when that is for others.
The word tranny belongs the drag community (straight and gay). Transexuals should get their own words to be offended about.
That’s the point – They don’t get to choose, as it is applied to them as a pejorative.
On this matter, I’m avoiding the fray which I’m sure is ongoing on Facebook, and I have nothing further to add (And no time to do so, though would do an e-mail conversation.). I consider you a good e-friend, Jonathan, and hope that you will hear what I and others are attempting to convey on this matter.
Oh, MP. I love you—but you try the patience of a saint (not me, obviously).