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TAKING CARE OF HIS OWN — 5 Comments

  1. Does this ever ring a bell for me! In my last parish, the new pastor was definitely a happy clappy guy who harassed me in so many ways that I winced at the sound of his voice. (This was the parish where I finally brought my collie in and tied him to my desk) With amazing naivete, I would go in to our office at the Diocesan headquarters and explain these goings on to the Diocesan Asst. Director, a nun. Finally, one day I thought she looked rather bored and I couldn’t stand it any longer. So I said something about her inaction in protecting the very people that she actually sent into these parishes to work under such trying situations.
    She came to angry life immediately, straightened up in her chair and said something like ‘Let’s get one thing straight, you would not believe the stories that come from the parishes and cross this desk. I listen, but I am going to retire with a pension’. And that was that!
    After I left (having never complained to her again) she sent other 2 other women in two following years to that parish. Both left voluntarily after 1 year, and 1 of them left the church, as did I. So that was 2 out of 3 women who worked there and left the church because of his abuse and the fact that once you got there, you were really on your own although at first you thought the Diocese might back u up or calm him down. Vain fools we were! Just women who are expendable……..
    nij
    PS. She did retire with a pension and was often in the news as a doer of good things in her retirement!

  2. Does this ever ring a bell for me! In my last parish, the new pastor was definitely a happy clappy guy who harassed me in so many ways that I winced at the sound of his voice. (This was the parish where I finally brought my collie in and tied him to my desk) With amazing naivete, I would go in to our office at the Diocesan headquarters and explain these goings on to the Diocesan Asst. Director, a nun. Finally, one day I thought she looked rather bored and I couldn’t stand it any longer. So I said something about her inaction in protecting the very people that she actually sent into these parishes to work under such trying situations.
    She came to angry life immediately, straightened up in her chair and said something like ‘Let’s get one thing straight, you would not believe the stories that come from the parishes and cross this desk. I listen, but I am going to retire with a pension’. And that was that!
    After I left (having never complained to her again) she sent other 2 other women in two following years to that parish. Both left voluntarily after 1 year, and 1 of them left the church, as did I. So that was 2 out of 3 women who worked there and left the church because of his abuse and the fact that once you got there, you were really on your own although at first you thought the Diocese might back u up or calm him down. Vain fools we were! Just women who are expendable……..
    nij
    PS. She did retire with a pension and was often in the news as a doer of good things in her retirement!

    • Nij, I can’t help noticing you just about always double post. Could your computer mouse be set up for single click, not double? O_o

  3. Hi jcf,

    ranged if I know why it happens and I wish I knew how to avoid it. It happens whether I use the laptop or the iPad. I am careful to x only once, then the screen goes to sign in to blogger and u have to click again. Last week I tried to skip that step, but the post didn’post so if u know how to help, please, please send directions.
    Thanks
    Ps it happens on Grandmere’blog also, but not all the time..???????
    Nij